If there is one phobia that many adults share more commonly than any other would be a fear of speaking in public. You would think that the fear of dying would be more common, but if you look around, many sources state that people fear speaking in public more. Though there are different reasons why each person hates this, it usually comes down to acceptance. We fear we are going to make a fool of ourselves in front of everyone we know. Its mostly an unreasonable fear, but it is a huge one none-the-less.
I know that my daughter is totally unlike me in that she has no fear of speaking in front of anyone. She can walk into a room and put on a show for complete strangers without any type of hesitation. I realize that she is only six, but I had developed my fear of speaking in public by that age. Mine is not bad, but I have it in some form. She may never have this fear, and that is one thing that I hope for her. The ability to speak in public or to groups is a good trait to have throughout life.
Some of the first times people have to face a fear of speaking in public is in school. There are always going to be times when you have to address your class or even the entire school. If you are quaking with fear, talk with someone at the school to help you with it. You are going to find that your fear is unjust once you get going, but that does not make taking that first step up in front a that group any easier. Your peers may be tough, but they are also going to see that they could be in your shoes. Most of the jeering that comes from this situation comes from the movies. Its not very realistic.
You can get through your fear of speaking if you draw from the moments in school when you had to do it. You did not drop over dead. That is something to keep in mind. It might not stop you from being nervous, but that is okay. Sometimes, nerves help us to do better anyway. If you went up in front of a group with no nervousness or no fear of speaking what so ever, you may be too relaxed. Even if you dont mind doing it, keep in mind that you have to do your best.
If you have a fear of speaking to groups, you are not alone and you should not think it makes you different. It actually makes you part of the norm. There are always going to be times when you will have to do this, so you have to do what you can to get over this. In some cases, even telling a joke to a group of friends that you know love you can be hard. If you have this fear of speaking, that is a great place to start testing the waters. You know they already accept you, so use them to get over at least some of your fear.
I know that my daughter is totally unlike me in that she has no fear of speaking in front of anyone. She can walk into a room and put on a show for complete strangers without any type of hesitation. I realize that she is only six, but I had developed my fear of speaking in public by that age. Mine is not bad, but I have it in some form. She may never have this fear, and that is one thing that I hope for her. The ability to speak in public or to groups is a good trait to have throughout life.
Some of the first times people have to face a fear of speaking in public is in school. There are always going to be times when you have to address your class or even the entire school. If you are quaking with fear, talk with someone at the school to help you with it. You are going to find that your fear is unjust once you get going, but that does not make taking that first step up in front a that group any easier. Your peers may be tough, but they are also going to see that they could be in your shoes. Most of the jeering that comes from this situation comes from the movies. Its not very realistic.
You can get through your fear of speaking if you draw from the moments in school when you had to do it. You did not drop over dead. That is something to keep in mind. It might not stop you from being nervous, but that is okay. Sometimes, nerves help us to do better anyway. If you went up in front of a group with no nervousness or no fear of speaking what so ever, you may be too relaxed. Even if you dont mind doing it, keep in mind that you have to do your best.
If you have a fear of speaking to groups, you are not alone and you should not think it makes you different. It actually makes you part of the norm. There are always going to be times when you will have to do this, so you have to do what you can to get over this. In some cases, even telling a joke to a group of friends that you know love you can be hard. If you have this fear of speaking, that is a great place to start testing the waters. You know they already accept you, so use them to get over at least some of your fear.
About the Author:
Charlie Reese enjoys public speaking and reading his weekly horoscope on his monthly horoscope website weekly.
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