A business owner--a guy who owns his own thing. That person that radiates a feeling of wealth, freedom from having to report to a boss, freedom from having to go to work, a guy driving that nice car and living in that nice house. We say about him: "Sure, he can afford it, he has his own business!" or "Obviously, he runs his own business!"
But why, if we know that owning your own business is the only true way to be successful and self-reliant are we so scared to take even consider building our own?
Think that isn't true? Ask some of your friends to go into business with you as partners-but be prepared to hear all of the excuses why they can't. And be prepared to hear them tell you exactly why your business is going to fall on its face even though they have no experience running a business and probably don't even know anybody who does.
Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation?
It's a complicated question with a complicated answer. Let's break it down.
The entire concept of our education, known as The Prussian System, is training, including skills and the mindset that a student receives in order to become an employee.
We learn in school and in life in general that we have to fit in, and to do that we need jobs. So we find one, slave away for peanuts, and hope that we won't have to leach off our children when we retire forty or fifty years down the road.
It's classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov's dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
We are told that there is nothing un-dignifying about that, quite opposite, receiving a pat on the back and a few bucks from your boss is a good thing, mainly because this is the only way to make a living.
What happened to your childhood dreams of being an astronaut, a fighter pilot, or a deep sea diver? When did you start thinking that being a desk jockey was an acceptable replacement for those dreams?
We forget our dreams because we are repeatedly reminded that they are impractical. How can we make money doing those things? How can we support our families? How can we be productive members of society?
Before you know it you are already employed by somebody and already complaining about not being able to afford the lifestyle you want and the things you want. Few years down the road it becomes normality for you and next thing you know you are teaching you kids to follow your steps.
You know it's true. You're parents shaped you into what you are today just as you are shaping your children. But what will happen if you break that cycle and turn your future around?
By working for yourself you can take your life back and regain the future you always wanted.
Stepping into the unknown is always frightening. We are afraid when confronted with a situation we don't fully understand, and right now you don't understand much about owning a business.
Especially something like an Internet based business, with all the hype and rumors about it!
That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play.
How do we learn anything in life?
There is only one way - repetition. Remember, you try to write, it looks awful in the beginning, but you keep re-writing the same word over and over and become good at it. By now you don't even think how to do it, you just know.
Any new skill is learned that way, no matter what it is.
That repetition is what makes us become who we become.
Maybe the only thing that gets you through your day is thinking that the position you are in now is only temporary. You drag yourself to work early in the morning, smile and make jokes with a boss you don't respect and don't really care for, you listen to your co-workers as they gripe about the same things that keep you up at night, all the time dreaming of that big break you're going to get a little ways down the road.
One day you realize that you've become a typical representative of people of your occupation: a guy driving particular car, eating particular food, dressing at a particular store, the guy whose income level is whatever it is, $45,000 a year, plus or minus 10 - 15%.
Through repetition you learn action, behavior, and thoughts that will define you for the rest of your life. Your actions, behavior, and thoughts will separate the world into two parts: familiar and not familiar.
You'll always feel comfortable doing familiar things but when you attempt anything unfamiliar your body delivers a dose of adrenalin to your brain and makes you feel anxious.
A minuscule amount of this substance will dictate your actions, the decisions you make and ultimately your destiny!
Tony Robbins once said, "It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!"
It is that feeling of discomfort that comes from doing anything new that will keep you from stepping out of your routine and toward the life you really want to live.
And everyone you know will help you stay on that familiar track.
Your income is an average income of seven of your closest friends. Look around yourself: you don't hang out with anybody making significantly less than you, because you don't quite understand their lifestyle, and you don't hang around people making significantly more than you because you don't have anything in common either.
Ask any of them about starting a new business venture and earning six figures a year and you'll get blank stares, excuses, recipes for failure, and panic. They don't know anything about any of that and can't help you get there either. All you'll hear is that it just won't work, that stuff like that never really happens.
The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new.
Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: "people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar." Sound a little bit like you?
So, there you are, after having heard about Global Resorts Network, after having watched numerous testimonials, after having studied everything about this business, you are still sitting there and worrying: "What if I still don't know something, what if there is something I need to find out before I get started, what if, what if, what if"
Here is a story for you.
Before my first Tae Kwon Do tournament fight I went to my instructor, Master Shilkaitis, and told him that though I wanted to compete, but I wasn't sure that I was ready. He told me that I "would never feel one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear."
In that fight, I took third place by knocking my opponent cold but I was so frightened at the time that I still don't remember it even happening.
Having me talk to you all day won't do any good. Either you will decide to take the next step or you will fall back into your old comfortable ways and never stray outside your comfort zone.
Nothing will change on its own! If you continue doing what you've been doing, you will continue getting the results you've been getting!
Choose to change today!
It will be scary in the beginning, it will feel very uncomfortable and strange, but that's when you know that you are changing things!
You want success, you want money, you want recognition - make a decision!
Maybe the next time you hear someone's jealous remarks about being able to afford those fancy things, they'll be talking about you!
But why, if we know that owning your own business is the only true way to be successful and self-reliant are we so scared to take even consider building our own?
Think that isn't true? Ask some of your friends to go into business with you as partners-but be prepared to hear all of the excuses why they can't. And be prepared to hear them tell you exactly why your business is going to fall on its face even though they have no experience running a business and probably don't even know anybody who does.
Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation?
It's a complicated question with a complicated answer. Let's break it down.
The entire concept of our education, known as The Prussian System, is training, including skills and the mindset that a student receives in order to become an employee.
We learn in school and in life in general that we have to fit in, and to do that we need jobs. So we find one, slave away for peanuts, and hope that we won't have to leach off our children when we retire forty or fifty years down the road.
It's classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov's dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
We are told that there is nothing un-dignifying about that, quite opposite, receiving a pat on the back and a few bucks from your boss is a good thing, mainly because this is the only way to make a living.
What happened to your childhood dreams of being an astronaut, a fighter pilot, or a deep sea diver? When did you start thinking that being a desk jockey was an acceptable replacement for those dreams?
We forget our dreams because we are repeatedly reminded that they are impractical. How can we make money doing those things? How can we support our families? How can we be productive members of society?
Before you know it you are already employed by somebody and already complaining about not being able to afford the lifestyle you want and the things you want. Few years down the road it becomes normality for you and next thing you know you are teaching you kids to follow your steps.
You know it's true. You're parents shaped you into what you are today just as you are shaping your children. But what will happen if you break that cycle and turn your future around?
By working for yourself you can take your life back and regain the future you always wanted.
Stepping into the unknown is always frightening. We are afraid when confronted with a situation we don't fully understand, and right now you don't understand much about owning a business.
Especially something like an Internet based business, with all the hype and rumors about it!
That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play.
How do we learn anything in life?
There is only one way - repetition. Remember, you try to write, it looks awful in the beginning, but you keep re-writing the same word over and over and become good at it. By now you don't even think how to do it, you just know.
Any new skill is learned that way, no matter what it is.
That repetition is what makes us become who we become.
Maybe the only thing that gets you through your day is thinking that the position you are in now is only temporary. You drag yourself to work early in the morning, smile and make jokes with a boss you don't respect and don't really care for, you listen to your co-workers as they gripe about the same things that keep you up at night, all the time dreaming of that big break you're going to get a little ways down the road.
One day you realize that you've become a typical representative of people of your occupation: a guy driving particular car, eating particular food, dressing at a particular store, the guy whose income level is whatever it is, $45,000 a year, plus or minus 10 - 15%.
Through repetition you learn action, behavior, and thoughts that will define you for the rest of your life. Your actions, behavior, and thoughts will separate the world into two parts: familiar and not familiar.
You'll always feel comfortable doing familiar things but when you attempt anything unfamiliar your body delivers a dose of adrenalin to your brain and makes you feel anxious.
A minuscule amount of this substance will dictate your actions, the decisions you make and ultimately your destiny!
Tony Robbins once said, "It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!"
It is that feeling of discomfort that comes from doing anything new that will keep you from stepping out of your routine and toward the life you really want to live.
And everyone you know will help you stay on that familiar track.
Your income is an average income of seven of your closest friends. Look around yourself: you don't hang out with anybody making significantly less than you, because you don't quite understand their lifestyle, and you don't hang around people making significantly more than you because you don't have anything in common either.
Ask any of them about starting a new business venture and earning six figures a year and you'll get blank stares, excuses, recipes for failure, and panic. They don't know anything about any of that and can't help you get there either. All you'll hear is that it just won't work, that stuff like that never really happens.
The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new.
Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: "people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar." Sound a little bit like you?
So, there you are, after having heard about Global Resorts Network, after having watched numerous testimonials, after having studied everything about this business, you are still sitting there and worrying: "What if I still don't know something, what if there is something I need to find out before I get started, what if, what if, what if"
Here is a story for you.
Before my first Tae Kwon Do tournament fight I went to my instructor, Master Shilkaitis, and told him that though I wanted to compete, but I wasn't sure that I was ready. He told me that I "would never feel one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear."
In that fight, I took third place by knocking my opponent cold but I was so frightened at the time that I still don't remember it even happening.
Having me talk to you all day won't do any good. Either you will decide to take the next step or you will fall back into your old comfortable ways and never stray outside your comfort zone.
Nothing will change on its own! If you continue doing what you've been doing, you will continue getting the results you've been getting!
Choose to change today!
It will be scary in the beginning, it will feel very uncomfortable and strange, but that's when you know that you are changing things!
You want success, you want money, you want recognition - make a decision!
Maybe the next time you hear someone's jealous remarks about being able to afford those fancy things, they'll be talking about you!
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